How to always be present and focus on enjoying the moment?

Many things happening in our lives that take away our attention. Life is happening as we speak! Your kids want you. Your spouse wants you. you got better things to do than listening to someone rambling about how to being in present.

Being present means that no matter how out-of-control your day is, no matter how stressful your job or life becomes, the act of being present can become an oasis. It can change your life, and it’s incredibly simple.

Pay Attention!

In order to address the reason why we are not in the present moment, we first have to understand what does it mean to pay attention. Attention is task-dependent – you will have a longer attention span when you find yourself fully engaged in an activity. Social media, for example, when you follow certain trends or message. You feel more connected to your task at hand. You are channeling all your energy (in this case attention) to what satisfies your immediate needs.

Our distraction becomes a way to disconnect and dissociate ourselves away from where it needs to be whether it is to address an issue you are facing or a challenge you need to overcome, or a conflict you are trying to avoid. Not being in the present moment becomes an easy escape route to many of us who rather not deal with what can trigger our negativity in life.

As adults, our attention span when it comes to listening is about 5 to 12 minutes. If someone doesn’t have any interesting things to say to you. You move on to the next search on what can satisfy this attention desire. Things that can entertain your mind by escaping from what doesn’t appear to be comfortable and easy.

However, studies have shown that our ability to be in the present moment is directly proportional to the level of success and how we manifest our results.

 Here are some of the characteristics of a person being in the present moment?

• They appeared to be more authentic and genuine when you engage them

• They are interesting people and often have a lot to share

• You can be count on them listening to you

• They don’t jump in and start talking about themselves (Not full of ego)

• They have an interest in serving rather than get in and get out

 If you are worried about something that had to happen or will happen, your energy is spending on worrying. But when you are the focus, you access all of your energy by just BEING in the moment and this actually attracts more Energy from around you to use as you choose.

Here are some questions you can use to assess whether you are being in the present moment or not:

• When you take an action, is it to enjoy the experience or just to get it done?

• When you are eating a meal, is it for enjoyment or to finish it?

• Are you enjoying the journey with excitement, curiosity, joy, and passion, or are you simply going through the motions?

What happened to our self-esteem or confidence level when we are not in the present moment? Confidence is something that many of us associate with our success in life. When you are not in the present moment, you are living somewhere else. Either hold on to the past or expecting for something to have a certain outcome in the future. When we do that, even if we already have the skills and talents, we tend not recognizing what we are really good at but start to focus on what we couldn’t accomplish or can’t do. Which in turn, diminish your ability to feel confident about anything you do.

Being in the present moment allows you a chance to practice detached involvement. you're both a participant and an observer of your life at the same time. You see all experiences as part of life's journey without judging them as being good or bad. You simply experience them and are in control of your responses to them.

You can still care about the outcome, but you are not concerned if they turn out differently than what you’d planned for or expected. Detached involvement also describes a state of being in which you are aware of everything around you and yet, isolated from it.

Here are some ways you can take in to practice to always be present and focus on enjoying the moments:

• Meditation – sitting with the emotions and thoughts. practice being an observer of your own mind.

• Bring creative with tasks you don’t find enjoying – exercise with your music on, reading books, running outside and change your scenery, painting, sketching…

• Build-in short breaks for tough tasks – get up and do something else in between your difficult task. Gives yourself a moment and regroup your thoughts

• Find a way to set a reminder for yourself. wear a reminder bracelet

• Minimize your distractions

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