The state of not knowing what to do next applies to everyone, at any age and at different stages of our lives. Whether you are heading off to advance your education, graduating, choosing a career path, recovering from a heartbreak, just got married, or entering into retirement, we all have a point in our lives where we don’t know what to do next. “I don’t know what to do…” is the most common line we hear ourselves repeating repeatedly.
A client of mine who has been feeling burnt out recently from her work had been contemplating what to do with her life. We sat down and brainstormed through some of the options she currently has but none of them seem to be motivating, inspiring.
“I don’t know”, she said. “I just don’t know.”
She came up with ten possible professions options to explore but none of which she found particularly interesting. We sat down and talked about it some more on what she was feeling. As it turns out, the reason she keeps circling around the idea of “I don’t know what to do…” is because she has not yet let go of how she’s been approaching the situation.
Life is not predictable and the answers we seek do not always come nicely wrapped. Waking up our conscious awareness and accept reality, embracing the changes is the first step towards finding that answer to your question of “I don’t know what to do…” It requires you to put down your old pair of glasses and admit that you need a new one when you are not able to see things clearly.
For me, I had to overcome my own limiting self-beliefs, which had to lead me to believe that beauty is only defined by our physical appearance. I could not see the future of myself standing next to someone else and feel confident about the way I look. The hardest part was figuring out what I want, what do I love to do and what contributions can I make to the world by being here in this lifetime. I couldn’t make a decision as to what purpose do I serve in being here.
Eventually, I became very dissatisfied and unhappy with the direction my life was taking. I knew I had to take action and I had to act on it fast because physical deterioration is only a small tip of a giant iceberg.
Finally, my awareness started to kick in. Realizing that many times the question of “I don’t know what to do with my life…” is the guidepost that leads to a greater path, and the only way we can change I put on the tennis shoes I began my search to that question.
Curiosity brings knowledge. Because being curious is the only way we can learn anything. It is the only way we can learn about ourselves, our strengths, our weaknesses, our values, and our beliefs. It is the only way we can achieve greater and better.
Not knowing is a lot better than a know but not being able to get it. Not knowing implies hope. No one is going to do your life for you and therefore the only way you can answer “I don’t know what to do with my life..” is actually to get up and DO life. You may be terrible at it at first, but each step you are willing to take would lead you to the next step. Find out who you are, what your passions are and what you want to do with your life.
In order to move forward, you will have to let go of your past and embrace the change. If you don’t know who you are and what you want, it makes it a lot harder to move forward in your life. I recommended the Energy Leadership Index Assessment to my client who came in seeking for a change. We went through her result, discovering who she really is and creating a life vision. Because knowing your purpose and how you want to live your life are the foundations to build beliefs in yourself, your confidence, resilience, courage, and accountability. With a purpose and a vision and a clear new pair of glasses, you begin to approach life differently, you won’t be paralyzed by the fear of not knowing what to do; you will seize every moment as an opportunity to experience life.