How to Build New Habit and Stick to It?
As New Year approaching us in the speed of light, many of us are thinking about new forecast. Are you tired of setting goals and not achieving them every year? Are you setting yourself to failure with your current methodology?
The trick for building a new habit and not fail is to chip away at your goal in small, incremental steps. In other words, you can turn your daily actions into success towards desirable outcome.
Imagine you are celebrating somewhere on New Year’s eve. As you make a toast to friends and family, you decided to have another New Year resolution. A resolution that would be revolutionary this time. You are really going to succeed in keeping your promise to yourself. You are ready, you are motivated, you are full of energy and you tell yourself you will not stop until you achieve your goal. What is different about this time?
Why do I want to build this new habit?
Before we even talk about the how, let us focus on the why.
Why do you want to build this new habit? What does it mean to you on achieving this new habit? When you have a clear vision of why you want to do this and what your intention is behind this idea, you have created a motivation for yourself. The more clarity you have, the better you will success in getting what you want. Craving is not necessarily a bad thing. Craving allows you to come up with an effective action plan so you can create your own sustainable new habit.
Take Baby Steps.
Once you have figured your why, you are ready to take your first step.
Have you ever noticed how baby walks? While running may be your ultimate goal at the finish line, in order to get to running, we need to take a step first. Preparing yourself for the speed and the momentum. Taking one small step at a time as you build up to a big leap.
This is the key to success. The biggest mistake we make is we want to get to our destination fast, we want results, we want to see outcome, and that is the worst thing you can do to yourself by diving into this deep, massive commitment right from the start. There is nothing wrong with dream big, but as we set goals that are unrealistic to ourselves and too big to reach our motivation towards achieving it drop.
Get back into the saddle ASAP.
“To err is Human.”
Even the best horse jockey had fallen from his/her horse at least once in his/her lifetime. You are human. It is natural to miss a day, a week, or even a month of work as you start with your new habit. Your mind will play tricks to you by telling you all sorts of negative critics.
This is a great time to practice Self-Compassion (click here to sign up and receive my VIP self-compassion workbook).
Instead of wasting your time and dwell on the mistake you made, practice self-compassion. Focus on all the great moments you had experienced when you first started and followed through on the habit. Just like a baby learning to walk, creating new habits requires time, patience and persistence.
You might have fallen from the horse, but this is the time to get up and get back into the saddle ASAP.
Make Plans for Obstacles.
Prepare yourself and anticipate obstacles that may come up. Identify your own self-sabotaging behaviors can prevent yourself from stumbling on blocks that get in your way of success. When you are prepared, then you can take action to overcome them.
Here are some common obstacles:
Create Accountability and Celebration to your success.
Track your own progress and make a public announcement to your friends and family about your new habits and goals. We are more likely to follow through with a commitment when you are hold yourself accountable. One way to do this by having others watch your actions.
Utilize your social media to post your progress updates, keep a journal and write down your thoughts and feelings. Collaborate and work with a coach, a trained professional to help you identify patterns of behaviors and keep up focus on your desirable outcome while maintaining your consistence actions.
Lastly, reward yourself regularly on completing a small step. Celebrate the successful completion of your goals and reaching to a milestone.