On my way out from work as I waited by the time card system is when “Shorty” from Engineering walked pass me pushing his cart loaded with tools and ladder. We started off with small talks and then topic suddenly shifted to owning things.
He said to me he is not working to buy a house. He doesn’t want a house. A house he said is not own by you, it is own by the bank to whom you owe your money to. You work hard for your life but a large portion of that goes to the bank who owns your house. When the pipe is broken, you are the one paying the bills and fix the pipe. When the window is broken, you are the one paying the bills to get the window replaced. “But you don’t own nothing.” He said.
What do you think you own? A very nice car? A very big house where you only utilize 20% of its space? Maybe a few pieces of very luxury garments. A desktop computer, cellphone, two or three iPads. Do you really own these items? Or do these items own you?
A recent study revealed that the average person spends 90 mins a day on their phone. That figure may not sound like a lot but that amounts up to 23 days a year and 3.9 years of the average person’s life is spent staring at their phone screen.
The more we attached to these external materials, the less we are likely to spend time within one another. The minute we step into an elevator, it almost seem as if we are frighten to make eye contacts, exchange greetings to another human beings.
We spend more time browsing through social media and immerse ourselves looking at how many likes this person or a particular post received. What is going on with other people’s life? How can I own something that person have? What would my friends think about me if I have this and that?
Do you find yourself exhausted in this mental marathons of keeping up with everyone and everything else? How much time do you spend for yourself? Get to know yourself? What is it about you? Do you meditate? Do you say your grace or write down your gratitudes at night? Can you distinguish the difference between necessity vs accessory?
Own less so you can have more. More time to discover who you really are. Not by social standards but by the inner voice inside of you.